Nicknames: it kind of depends on his temperament at the time. Little Butt and Stinky Butt (thanks Alimentum) are good standbys and Sir Cries-a-lot has gotten a good bit of use.
Stats: 8lbs 12oz and 21 inches
To me, we've had a good growth in a month... about two inches and two and a quarter pounds. But we're still not on the standard growth chart and we're under the 25th percentile for gestational age on the preemie chart. I'm not really worried, but the pediatrician wants us to bump up the calorie content. We're now fortifying him to 22 calories per ounce. Unfortunately, I'm not sure if it's helping as he isn't finishing his bottles as much now. I guess we'll see though... he's got a weight check in three weeks to see how we're doing.
Eating: He's still eating about three ounces every three hours. We had almost transitioned to four ounces, but he slowed down in the last week. He's doing about 8 bottles a day. Typically one or two are four ounces, and one or two are two ounces (typically late night/early morning). We've decided to transition to Similac Sensitive from Silimac Alimentum as no one is convinced that he actually has a milk allergy. It's day two of all Sensitive and things are going pretty well. If it takes a turn, we'll obviously switch back, but my wallet really appreciates half price formula.
Sleeping: He's sleeping pretty good at night, staying with the three hour feed schedule that he's created for himself. Every now and then he skips a feed (the 11pm) and makes it until 1-2am... it's obviously glorious when it happens, but I can't seem to control it or replicate it. His daytime sleep schedule is thinning out. He'd optimally be awake for about an hour to an hour and a half (that's the sweet spot) but he's been waking up a good bit during the day. Lots of little cat naps of 15-30 minutes now rather than large chunks of napping.
Likes: he's still a really big fan of baths. It's pretty much the only time he enjoys skin to skin, but he also enjoys floating on his back and kicking his little feet. He's developed a love affair with ceiling fans. Someone should have mentioned that babies like ceiling fans before I took his out of his room. Oh well... his room is pretty. That's most important, right?
Dislikes: He still hates hiccups. Bless his heart. He's also not a fan of tummy troubles. He's on Zantac for reflux, which he also hates. I mean I think he likes not having acidic formula come up his throat, but he is NOT a fan of the medicine. It supposedly tastes awful. He's also on prescription drops for stomach discomfort, because tummy troubles suck.
Looking forward to: I think we've seen our first real smile, but I'm definitely looking forward to that becoming more regular and predictable.
Not looking forward to: I'm on my last week of maternity leave. While my bank account will appreciate my return, my heart is understandably sad. My intention was always to stay home, especially after infertility hit. These days are precious and I may never get to experience these newborn days again, but the reality of our financial situation says that if we hope to have another child at some time, I need to continue working. The good news is that I actually really like my job. The career move was a good one early this year as returning to a job I really enjoy is I'm sure infinitely easier than the alternative. And they've been really good to me! They took a HUGE risk by hiring me and it kind of backfired on them... three weeks on the job and I was gone. But even in light of that, they offered me two more weeks than I was originally expecting. I'm sure it won't be as bad as I'm expecting. My job keeps me busy, so the day will go quickly. But I admittedly feel guilty about sending him off to daycare. And I worry about him bonding with day care workers over me. Not sure if that's a normal fear or a special adoption attachment fear, but it's there. So yeah, not looking forward to giving this sweet baby up for 9 hours a day.
It was a really wonderful month. My only complaint is that it went too fast. Little Man is so incredible (even when he's screaming bloody murder in my ear for half an hour). He is such a precious addition to our family and we know that we are truly blessed to call him ours.
It was a really wonderful month. My only complaint is that it went too fast. Little Man is so incredible (even when he's screaming bloody murder in my ear for half an hour). He is such a precious addition to our family and we know that we are truly blessed to call him ours.





In my experience, the DREAD of going back to work was much worse than the actual act of going back to work. I cried like 24/7 for the whole last week of maternity leave...but once I actually went back, it was never as awful as I'd feared it might be. I mean, the first few days definitely weren't my favorite, but they were such BUSY days that time flew by and I barely had time to sit around and mope. I am praying that your experience will be similar!! And I am sad for Garrison that you so cruelly removed the ceiling fan from his room!!! Poor deprived baby!!!!
ReplyDeleteWHAT A CUTIE!!! Especially the first pic.
ReplyDeleteI echo Erika! (In fact, I think I told her this exact thing when she went back!) The anticipation, to me at least, is so much worse than actually going back. It's wonderful that you have a job you love, because that helps tremendously. Even though I love my job, sometimes something trivial would happen and I think "I don't need all this craziness - I HAVE MY BABY", but those moments have gotten few and far between. :)
ReplyDeleteAnd, it doesn't matter how you became a mama - it's a totally normal fear about our babies bonding with childcare providers. But he knows YOU'RE his mama, I promise. And he'll prefer you. (Until your provider sneaks him ice cream after nap time and then he's like "I love you mom, but keep working and I'll see you later". Or maybe that's just my child….) :)
Aw he is so cute and I can not believe he is already 2 months old!! I hope going back to work goes as smoothly as possible for you even though I know it will be hard.
ReplyDeleteI smiled so much throughout this post. (Well except for the tummy trouble parts) But all these photos and experiences and it's YOUR son!! I have wanted this for so long for you. I understand your doubts and fears about going back to work, but I agree with everyone else. You're his mama, and I'm sure once you get back to work and pick up a happy well taken care of baby and his eyes light up because he sees YOU...you'll know it's all going to be fine. xoxo
ReplyDeleteMy biggest fear was that my son would bond closer to his daycare provider, but despite the 9 hours he spends with her, he always greets me with smiles and seems so happy to see me. Our relationship never changed. These babies know their mamas, who they bond with in the early weeks/months, who cares for them at all hours of the night, who is their constant. They just know.
ReplyDeleteWishing you a great return to work! It's hard, but a lot of people, like me, find it doable. Congrats on such a cutie!!!
The day carer bonding worry is normal. It is without need assuming a decent parent however. AND, you really do want your baby to be bonded to not only you but also their day carer person. Attachment with love is [art of a good healthy day care arrangement. And, he will know his always forever people are different from good day carers. You are doing terrifically. You are his parents.
ReplyDeletePS: it is not uncommon when calorie count of formula goes up for quantity to decrease ... the body knows even if more calories would improve weight gain.
Whoo, this turned into an essay. Why can't I ever keep things short?!
ReplyDeleteHooray for a new update! I've been watching fervently.
With the daycare worry, that's super common, and I bet a part of you feels like, in your case, it's more rational, because of the adoption. It really doesn't work that way, though, and once you've both settled into the new routine, I think you'll see that. There will be times that he doesn't want to leave or he even wants to go to the daycare provider instead of you in a particular instance--I know that when one of my kids bonks their head or scrapes their knee and reaches for my mom (who's our daycare) instead of me, or even pushes me away, I sometimes feel a twinge. But babies know who their moms and dads are and tend to take them and their presence for granted, so they want to go to someone else. Sometimes they cry more around the mom because they know they're in the safest place they can be, so it's okay to cry. It's really good for them to build those strong bonds with other people besides you, whether it's family or friends or other caregivers, so just think of it as giving him a whole bunch of loving aunts and grandmas. If you had a ton of siblings, you'd want them all to be super close to him but you know he'd never think they were his parents, and these women and men at the daycare will function the same way. Oh, yes, and as others have said, you'll be part sad and part excited when you get back to work. You'll have work to distract you from the times that you miss him, but I remember being surprised to be glad to go into work that first morning back.
You know, people make a big deal of the newborn phase, and I think it's really easy as a mom (and, of course, a first-time mom especially) to see a sweet, tender newborn phase and then just sort of the whole rest of their childhood jumbled together, stretching out in front of you, and of course you feel like this particular way he is is so fleeting and precious. But especially if you're paying close attention, trying to remember to have fun in with all the parenting, you see that each phase has its own exquisite tenderness. Toddlers have tantrums, but newborns have colic and no-sleep nights. To me, there's nothing like gazing at my babies just the way I did when they were newborns and stroking their soft skin, except then my daughter will lift her head back up, nestle her little arms around my neck, give me a big kiss on the mouth, and say, "I'm so glad you're here, Mommy." Give me terrible threes over newborn any day, lol. When I read her a story and then the next day she gets the book out and insists on "reading" it to my mom, telling her about all the details she loved. Okay, now I'm getting teary. The point is, don't let yourself fall into sadness about being at work during this period.
With his weight, just about everybody worries about weight gain, and yes, you have some real reasons to watch it, but it looks like he's healthy and happy, and you would definitely notice if he started to actually be undernourished. Babies do their catching up in different ways, and at this age, it's very hard to tell trends. It's also very easy to catch them just before a growth spurt--or worse, one weighing-in will be just after a growth spurt and the next one will be just before--and it'll seem like they're not growing well. He has all the signs of baby health--alertness, comfort, nice pink skin--that I think you're safe to just watch what he's eating and let the pediatrician worry about how much. I bet he'll also catch up some when he starts on table food, even though that's a ways out.
Last thing (I promise): about the fan... http://www.nickmom.com/more-lols/chart-who-do-i-love-more-mom-or-ceiling-fan/
Oh! I ran across this and thought it looked like something you'd do. So cute!
ReplyDeletehttps://www.pinterest.com/pin/254523816413835025/
oh my goodness!! I thought my guys were just weirdos with the ceiling fan. OBSESSED!!! I like that its an actual baby thing. We should spread the word ;)
ReplyDeleteGarrison is adorable! Our girls LOVED and still love the ceiling fan. Hope your transition back to work goes smoothly!
ReplyDeleteOh my goodness, he is so adorable, Amanda! You are such a wonderful mama :) And we also have the ceiling fan love going at our house, haha!
ReplyDeleteAwwww... glad he's doing better and sleeping at night! That's HUGE! DD also HATES taking her reflux meds. She takes Prevacid in the am and Zantac in the evening and I feel like I need two people to keep her from spitting it right back out.
ReplyDeleteSorry your maternity leave is up already! So glad you're going back to a job you love!
He's such a little cutie! My son is 16 months old and STILL obsessed with ceiling fans! My disgusted had horrible reflux issues and also used Zantac. We Luther's in a bottle and she never seemed to kind it that way. We always gave the bottle with what we KNEW she would drink, and then gave her more if needed. That way she would be taking in the full dosage of meds. I think going back to work is hard on every new Momma, but I'm so glad you get to return to a job you enjoy at least!
ReplyDeleteUgh! I know what you mean about the time. My little one is 6 weeks tomorrow and I can't even believe it. Time slow down! Good luck with the return to work. I know that is going to break my heart in two but has to be down. Sigh! Love the update of your lil man.
ReplyDeletehi there!
ReplyDeleterandom stranger here: speaking as the adopted child of a working mother (who also took night classes when i was little), even though i spent a LOT of time with babysitters, i was always all about my mom (and dad too). somehow babies just know - it goes way beyond biology! and (again speaking as an adopted child) thank you so much for giving that sweet boy a home. it makes me so happy to see blogs like yours. adoptive parents are so brave and selfless :)